Spanking your children is an outdated model of punishment and child-rearing that should die as a practice the same way sucking blood with leeches died out. It served little to no practical purpose, what purpose it does serve is equally if not better served through other disciplinary actions, and it can significantly fuck up your child’s development as a person in the long run.
There’s a reasonPositive Punishment such as spanking is out of favor with psychologists, psychiatrists, and good-sensed people, especially in regards to physical beatings.
Consistent with previous findings, results based on bivariate r found small but non-trivial long-term relationships between spanking/CP use and negative outcomes. Spanking and CP correlated .14 and .18 respectively with externalizing problems, .12 and .21 with internalizing problems and − .09 and − .18 with cognitive performance.
This study used retrospective reports from college students to examine the effects of spanking, a common aversive punishment, on self-esteem and perceived fairness of parental discipline, while taking the effects of other parental characteristics into account. No parental characteristic interacted with the slightly negative effect of spanking on self-esteem and fairness. However, controlling for positive communication or for a parent-oriented motivation for spanking eliminated the negative effects of spanking, suggesting that the negative effects reflected use of spanking as a replacement for positive communication with the child.
The researchers concluded, “There was no support for the necessity of the physical punishment …components during initial training.”
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in the fourth study, spanking was again found to be no more effective than the barrier-enforcement strategy. The author concluded, “[P]hysical punishment was not an important component of compliancetraining procedures.”27
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The meta-analysis by Gershoff noted that thirteen of fifteen studies (eighty-seven percent) found that parents’ use of corporal punishment was significantly correlated with less longterm compliance and less moral and pro-social behavior—in other words, corporal punishment was associated with worse rather than better child behavior.35 In their meta-analysis, Larzelere and Kuhn determined that “customary” corporal punishment was no better at promoting the development of children’s conscience or positive behavior than were other methods of discipline, including reasoning, time-out, taking away privileges, threats, and ignoring misbehavior.
So yeah, I’m sorry you were physically punished as a child. And I’m even more sorry that you seem to think it’s okay, and that it’s a model that should be used in the future. But you are categorically wrong. The best case scenario for spanking is that if you have open and honest communication for your child it doesn’t damage them. But if you actually had that you wouldn’t “need” to spank them in the first place.
It is not the most effective way of short-term compliance, it damages their long-term compliance, social skills, and cognition, and it’s actually barbaric.
Fucking stop.
Why is a post that amounts to just “don’t beat children” this controversial. You’d figure violence against children would be something we could all agree on as a bad thing
ugh 