as a lesbian who was in a 5 year relationship that ended a couple of months ago, my advice to fellow gays is to BREAK UP YOUR OWN WAY. when my ex and me broke up, we didn’t know how to navigate it because the model of heterosexual breakups was all that was available – the damage, spitefulness, ignoring each other, moving out straight away and fighting over household objects/pets, talking shit about each other etc. I really pushed for us to do what felt natural to us. after all, the reason we were both sad about breaking up was losing the FRIENDSHIP part of our relationship – so why couldn’t we keep it? it was such a healthy breakup. we only argued once when we were drunk and insecure. we still live together (along with my cousin/housemate). we still catch up on our fav tv shows and order take out. we don’t talk shit about each other. my family and her still chat and we still attend family events together. she still physios for my brothers footy team. we just fell out of love and our relationship turned into a friendship. you don’t HAVE to lose that. do your break ups your own way, gays. don’t look to het relationships to guide you. they suck.
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heterosexual breakups
the FUCK is a heterosexual breakup
how your breakup goes depends on a variety of factors and one of them is not what sexuality either of you are holy shit. it usually depends on both of you as individuals and how your relationship was to begin with?
I’ve had relationships go down in screaming flames because we were both shit for each other. I’ve had breakups where we just ceased the romantic part of our relationship and stayed friends. I’ve had relationships that were broken off where I was just Left without a word or explanation. I’ve had sad breakups that went smoothly, but one (or both) of us needed time before we resumed friendship. and all of these were “hetero” relationships
people here need to stop pushing the idea that not-straight (or sometimes not-cis) relationships can’t be a dumpster fire?? because my dude it sure as fuck can be and likely will be at least Once in your life
and like BEYOND THAT I think it’s healthy to go your own way post breakup, especially for the individual who did not initiate or want it. if you’re still in love, and you’re dumped, it’s often best to get some distance so you can deal with it
sounds like your breakup was 2 sided so don’t go saying that your model should be the DEFAULT BASE MODEL OF PERFECTION for it
lord save me from you people
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