rosenby:

It’s ok to have complex feelings about a family member who abused you because you can see how oppression and social conditioning made them this way.

Sometimes feelings about abusers do not fit neatly into “kill them all” vs “forgive but don’t forget” ideologies.

Maybe we will always be having those feelings and processing them every time they come up, and that’s okay. You’re not a fake victim because you empathize with your abuser and your empathy is not evidence that they didn’t hurt you or that you can’t also be angry.