“jealousy is so disgusting” “anger is so toxic” did u know? these are emotions every human has
I’ve always been a fan of an analogy I heard once. Your emotions are like one of the lights on your car’s dash. When one of them turns on, it means you need to check under the hood and fix them. It’s not bad that the light turned on, per se, and it doesn’t always mean something is broken. But what IS toxic, dangerous, and likely to break something, is when you let that light stay on, pretending it’s normal, until that braking fluid finally fails and you crash into someone, or your engine fails completely.
Feel jealous. Feel anger.
Just don’t let it fester. You need to look inside of yourself, find out why you’re feeling the way you are, and bring yourself to a satisfied, stable state of mind. You can look at philosophy, meditation/introspection, religion, or actual therapy, or at least talking to someone about it. You’ll find you’re much more content and happy when you do something about those feelings, and come to some sort of conclusion or resolution.
That is a wonderful way of looking at it, thankyou. Makes me feel better about myself when I DO feel that way.
I feel like a critical flaw with these arguments though is like….I don’t think most people realize. But a lot of people who spent the majority of their childhood being abused are always. angry.
I’ve discussed this with a few people before and they seem to collaborate my theory but like.
I’m always angry. always.
It’s an undercurrent. it’s not like the side effects are always at the surface. And I’ve taught myself to put it aside, to still be able to have fun and get on with my life.
but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m literally always going to be angry and at any moment I can stop pushing it down and be livid again.
but guess what? that’s not my fault. and I don’t think I’m a toxic person because of it. I can still be a good friend! All it means is that my friends have to understand that if I start talking about something that upsets me I’m likely going to go on a rant because I have so much pressure always built up.
a “normal” person might be able to turn off that dash light, but I feel like people need to understand that abuse victims and people with certain disabilities sometimes CANT.
ugh 